Parenting from joy

WHY?

Everyone is asking this question all the time. Why? Why? Why? Everyone who has a child knows this stage of endless whys and no matter what you tell them, why continues. I love this process. Why is the apple red? Why? why? why?

As adults, we also ask the question why. Why does the same thing keep happening to me? Why is it so hard? Why did I say that? Why is this person affecting me so much?  etc

But there is a significant difference between those whys. Children ask from the space of play, wonder, awe, imagination. They  explore and come up with the most amazing answers even if it means nothing to us as adults. Adults ask the question "why" from the space of intellect and analizing which doesn't always allow the use of our imagination and our intuition. So, for us, as adults, the question creates an endless cycle and rarely we find answers. Children on the other hand, allow their imagination and their spiritual information to flow in the body and they access their truth instantly. We call this being outside of the box.

Now, ask your questions from the space of ease and play, not from the space of self-emprovement.

Imagine, explore, play...

 

Responsibility

I will start by saying that in many western cultures, responsibilities rule and control people. For many parents, being a responsible parent is the highest point of pride. In a way, our society demands from us to be responsible at work, with our bills, for our children, for the future etc. And it's good in moderation just like everything else. When you take responsibility of all areas of your child's life, you are also not allowing a child to have her/his space and answers, in a way a parent takes over a child's life when she or he becomes responsible for everything.

I am certainly not judging responsibility at all, I find myself soaked with this energy where I can't do anything for myself because I have taken on the responsibility of doing everything. It's an impulse and instinct to take responsibility for our children and for the physical safety. Every mom and dad can recall when they started to create that safe and warm space for their unborn child. It's our nature to do so but it's not our nature to take over our children life and take responsibility for every aspect of their life. They will make mistakes, they will fall, they will do something unexpected...

When you start seeing your children as complete spiritual beings, you will create an incredible change in your parenting space and how you approach that space. You will realize that they come into our lives with their own wisdom and truth and our only responsibility is to hold a space for them, to create a safe and open environment of permission for them to grow and learn about the world around them and be who they are and what they want to be.

So create a safe and calm space for yourself  every day where you can let go off all responsibility, set it all aside and allow yourself to be YOU, give to yourself. Be it a meditation, a bath, a walk in the park, get your nails done, spend a day with girlfriends. Let go off worry and Be here and now. Responsibilities will always be there. You are not your responsibilities.